Drug addiction in the family tends to tilt the family dynamics. The attention and stress lean towards the addict. Others in the family seem to revolve around the mood and actions of the addict rather than live a normal life. The family gets trapped under a dark cloud. The addict seems to be dictating what the family does and when they do it.
At this point, there tends to be even greater internal stress within the family. Siblings become resentful. Spouses begin to distance themselves due to their differences of opinion. Control is lost.
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In order to regain control of your family again, you need a family plan. This is an actual written plan. There are meetings that include everyone in the family except the addict. The plan has one goal in mind, regain control. You accomplish this through well-structured ultimatums.
Step 1. Call a family meeting that includes family/friends/grandparents / etc. – don't include the addict.
Step 2. Discuss options – rehab / living with grandparents / boot camp / stay at home / etc.
Step 3. Formulate the rules/ultimatums. (only makes rules that you can and will stick to…to the letter).
A. Is the addict clean? If not, present him with his options of getting sober. Detox only. Detox plus an outpatient program. A thirty-day inpatient rehab center. etc. If he chooses to get clean, he still needs to hear the rule changes.
B. If he refuses to get clean, He needs to understand that the family is back in control as of today. All of the rules change as of this conversation. Here is where you will explain to him the new rules. It is important that the entire family and friends are on the same page here so that there are no contradictions.
Example of rule changes:
1. If he is of legal age, you could tell him that he is no longer welcome to stay here or at your grandparents until clean.
2. You will no longer provide; food, shelter, phone, insurance, laundry, not even a roll of toilet paper until he is clean.
3. Locks will be changed. Police will be notified if you are on the property. Your belongings will be on the curb, etc.
4. Never take away love and support. "I will always love you. And I will always help you. So long as that help has to do with getting you clean. Rent, car, phone, food, laundry, etc. have nothing to do with getting you clean".